Happy Wife, Happy Life – Keeping It Together On the Road
Some people get cranky when they’re hungry. I summon NARG.
NARG is an ugly, surly monster. He lacks empathy or logic and excels at blaming. Slumbering most of the time, this Creature From the A-Hole Lagoon climbs out of the depths and controls my being when my stomach grumbles too long.
Chelsea created this all-caps creation to separate the venomous devil of a cranky person from her usual (awesome, sweet, playful…HA) husband. That raging maniac telling her she’s the hungry one? That’s just NARG, not her husband. Feed the slavering beast and I return to Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde’s shadow disappearing into the foggy swamp.
Along with keeping me fed and subduing my alter-ego, we have a few other coping mechanisms for traveling together. You might wonder how our marriage survived eight months in 75 square feet of a camper van, not to mention weathered the 4,000 mile bike tour last summer without the van. It’s a good question, as I seldom write about our travel ethos or discuss practical advice regarding surviving (enjoying!) our travels.
Well, I’ll say this: there were no pre-established ground rules. They evolved. Slowly, in some cases, and immediately in others, usually after I was overly controlling and tried to tell my (always stubborn) wife what to do. Some practices evolved via discussion, others from necessity. It’s still a work in progress.
To wit (I’ve always wanted to write that): we recently did an excellent interview over lunch with my friend J.D. Roth, founder of the popular finance site Get Rich Slowly. The interview discusses many of our thoughts and philosophies related to staying sane and happy while exploring the world together, with ideas that apply to any kind of travel, whether by van, plane or bicycle. The discussion began because J.D. is about to launch on a long RV trip around the U.S. and is interviewing inspiring people along the way. I’m honored to be included.
We talked about many things, but one of my favorite quotes from our chat came from Chelsea. It totally sums up our current approach to travel (and life, for that matter). “I guess the bottom line is to be easy-going and adaptable,” she said. “When you’re nomadic, you’re open to serendipity. It permeates your whole life. You find yourself saying ‘yes’ a lot more. It’s a very ‘yes’ experience.”
Dakota, You are so correct and wise. Keeping your wife happy is essential to your being happy. I am the voice of experience having been married 37 years (three different wives) but 37 years never the less. AKJeff Riding his AWOL
Sounds a bit like Happy Jeff or Hit the Road…ha!
My third wife did leave me The Shopping Cart. The trike I use to make beer runs! 🙂
Now that is a generous lady!
Beer runs are important. Especially for a guy like me who has Compulsive Obsessive Cycling Disorder (COCD.)
What happens with NARG and NARGINA (the female version) are both present? It’s a nightmare! Keeping food around is an absolute must for travel, or all the time, really. Great interview and helpful tips to consider as we embark on our own adventure.
Also, I love, love that photo from the Gorge.
Oh, that’s a good question! It’s a deadly comment – NARG is mean, NARGINA is spacy. Which means that I’m pissed because she can’t make a decision, and she’s wandering aimlessly about… Deadly spiral, as you may intuit. Glad you liked the interview! And yeah, that shot from the Gorge is awesome – one of my favorites since we’ve been back in PDX.