playing outdoor chess in Christchurch

Playing life like chess

How approaching life with a chess mindset helps focus us on achievable goals

Playing chess in Christchurch, NZ as a youngster back in 2005.

After enjoying chess in my youth, this winter I returned to playing online with friends. The nuances of the game and geometric beauty of the positions fire my brain up.

Whoa, I sound like a chess nerd. YES.

One chess concept is called “working backwards to forwards.” Basically, you picture the achievable checkmate type based on the pieces you have (e.g. a knight and a rook). Then you work backward to the moves needed to achieve the goal. Different pieces, different type of checkmate.

What if we applied this to our lives? We all have unique constraints (e.g. work, family, pets, skills, finances, desire for particular activities). How often do we look at our available “pieces” and think, “My achievable goals are ____.”

Personal example: both Chelsea and I are hankering for long-term travel. We also have an 18 YO cat who requires frequent care, including subcutaneous fluids every other day. He’s going to live another 10 years at this rate, so we need to readjust.

Just like I can’t checkmate an opponent with only my king and a knight, I can’t currently can’t travel with Chelsea. If I beat my head against the idea of long-term travel given my pieces on the board, frustration descends. Checkmate…on me.

Instead, I reframed things. We’ve traveled a ton and we’ll do it again. I can still bikepack with friends or take solo van trips, which I always enjoy. When I’m home, my piano beckons from the living room and Bend is a fabulous place to live and recreate.

Knowing the constraints helps me eliminate “ohhh, I wish I could do ____” and narrow it down to “this is what I can accomplish now.” I’m finding that it’s quite useful.

And when I get back to Christchurch for an outdoor chess rematch, I’m gonna be ready.

Boosting Your Foreign Language Learning with Anki

Bike touring near Seville and wishing I spoke better Spanish.

This tutorial on optimizing foreign language learning is for you if:

  1. You’re serious about learning a foreign language.
  2. You want an effective, efficient method with constant forward progress, not repeatedly forgetting what you learned.
  3. You don’t want to spend money on expensive courses and their magic promises.

My Foreign Language Journey

I’ve “studied” Spanish for years: high school classes, traveling in Spain and Central America, plus a language immersion in Mexico pushing me to the point where I dreamt in Spanish.

The result from all of that effort? I forgot most of it. My Spanish is roughly A2 level, beyond “Yo hablo Espanol,” but basically survival level. *sigh* 

The problem? I lacked a system for learning. My scattershot approach generated results that were full of holes, with no plan for long-term retention. I’d learn something before or during a trip, then forget it.

Best part of Spanish immersion lessons: cooking tasty Mexican meals!

There is a better way

Then I discovered I can become an Italian citizen, which fired me up to learn the language. I finally got serious, researched and compiled a systematic approach, and stuck to it. 

One year into my pursuit of learning Italian, I’m fluent at a B2 level (independent, spontaneous conversation) and well on my way to C1 (fluent Italian with more complexity).

Better yet, I’m confident I can continue this forever, retaining what I’ve learned while adding other languages. 

In the past year, I’ve learned over 5,500 Italian vocab words and sentences, about 2 million times my Spanish results. As my teacher Luigi said recently (in Italian, obviously), “At this point, you’re prepared to talk about anything!” 

He administers fluency tests for the Italian government, so you can bet I felt good. I’m writing this post because I want you to experience the same satisfaction!

If you just want to say a few words of broken Spanish next Cancun trip or simply order a pizza in Rome, stop reading. 

If you’re serious about learning a language effectively and efficiently, journey onward!


  1. Set up a spaced repetition program like Anki as the foundation and use it consistently. Jump to how to set it up Anki.
  2. For fluent conversation, your goal should be to actively recall words (conversation) vs. passively recall them (listening or reading). 
  3. Develop a way to generate new vocab (language lessons on iTalki, Duolingo, grammar books, reading, podcasts, video, etc)
  4. Create memorable, simple sentences from that vocab and create flashcards in Anki. Jump to how to create effective flashcards.
  5. Do a total daily review of 10-30 minutes.
  6. Remember more words and speak a language better than you ever thought possible!

A Simple Language Learning System

To speak a language, you need words! If you don’t know enough vocabulary, you’ll stare blankly at a local as you try to say “I’d like to buy some pink swim shorts to match my flamingo pool floatie.” NOBODY wants to be in that blank-mind state.

Gone like the memory of seeing an alien…

And conversation requires a ton of words! Here’s the generally accepted rule for language proficiency, vocab-wise:

  • A1 – Survival I: communication at a basic level (500 vocab words)
  • A2 – Survival II: novice in simple contexts. (1,000 vocab words)
  • B1 – Conversational I: low intermediate level. (2,000 vocab words)
  • B2 – Conversational II: independent, spontaneous. (4,000 vocab words)
  • C1 – Fluency I: fluent in a complex manner. (8,000 vocab words)
  • C2 – Fluency II: same abilities as a native speaker. (16,000 vocab words)

But how do I put words in my brain?

Luckily, remembering words isn’t complex. You can do this.

At the core of efficient vocabulary acquisition is spaced repetition learning. This is simply a way to store all the words and info you’re trying to learn plus a way to shove it into your long-term memory storage.

I won’t go too far into the weeds, but think about it like this…

Say you learn some vocab. With zero reviews, you’ll forget 50% of what you learned in just a few days. 

This is why cramming for a test works, but only for short-term memory! A week later, all that effort is for naught. 

Use it or lose it!

The problem is that our brains are efficient at forgetting things we don’t need. It saves calories, just like when we roamed the savanna millennia ago. To remember something, we need to see it again and again in different contexts.

Spaced repetition accomplishes that. Here’s an interactive comic explaining why.

TL;DR: Think of it as smart, computerized flashcards. Rather than flipping through an endless pile of cards, they’re optimized for retention.

Get a card right? You won’t see it for awhile. Miss it? Back to the front of the line. It’s the age-old flashcard method, but with an algorithm that delivers them on a schedule to push words deeeep into long-term memory.

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Anki is the best program for spaced repetition learning.

Anki (Japanese for memorization) is an open-source project available for computers or phones. Free on computer and Android, a $25 one-time fee for the iPhone app. (Think of it as a donation.)

There’s no monthly fee, no BS. Sorry, no dinging sounds when you get an answer right. Just effective utility that WORKS.

Further proof: in 2010, Roger Craig used Anki to obtain the then-all-time record for single-day winnings on the quiz show Jeopardy!, memorizing a vast number of facts. Med school students use it, advanced language learners use it…and so can you.

Anki is the place where I put anything that I want to remember. Language vocab and sentences, musical terms and blues riffs, countries of the world, presidents of the U.S., anything. 

For 20-30 minutes a day for the past year, I committed to reviewing my Anki cards. When I’m home, the reviews consist of new cards plus reviews. While traveling, I only do reviews, reducing time to about 10 minutes a session.

Because Anki shows you a word or sentence just as you begin to forget it, the whole process is enjoyable! You’re in the flow zone between too easy or too hard.

Example of an Anki card.

At home, I usually lie on the floor and stretch, but it’s great for any moment when you’re killing time. I’ve flipped through cards at the barber, waiting for a friend to show up for a run, and in a tent on the Colorado Trail. The results?

I reviewed 100,010 cards (!) last year. WHOA. The power of consistency at work. Total cards memorized: 8,800. No wonder I feel far more proficient with Italian in a year than I did with years of sporadic Spanish. 

(More soon on how to create cards.)

Hard to believe I did 100,191 reviews. It felt so easy!
So. Many. Words.

Other Components of the Language System

Anki is the brain of the system, but it needs food. 

How you find new vocab is up to you. Here are some that I use, with more later on creating sentences from these:

Active vs. passive recall: Creating sentences you’ll actually remember

I started out simply memorizing vocab words, but noticed using them in conversation felt tough sometimes. I dug deeper and bought a course from the Universe of Memory, created by a Polish guy who speaks 10 languages and has seemingly read every study available on memory.

My biggest realization: active vs. passive recall.

Think of active words as those you can use in conversation at any time. Passive words are those you recognize, but only if you hear or read them. i.e. you can’t quickly access them for conversation. (We also have these in our native language: think how many words you can recognize while reading, but never use in daily life.

Universe of Memory course takeaways: 

  • Simply reviewing individual words often isn’t enough . You need to create your own sentences using the target vocab word. Mix your native and target language in the question to jolt your brain into active recall.
Mix vocab into a sentence like this.
  • Memorize natural phrases you might use in a conversation.
Use natural phrases people actually say.
  • Your sentences shouldn’t be longer than 5-7 words. Ideally, they should be 2-4 words long.
  • Use only words you know.
  • For additional cards, make sure the context differs from other cards (e.g. I sit on the chair, the chair is brown, please push in your chair).
  • Create a new sentence (out loud or as a new flashcard) whenever you fail to recall a given word.
  • Know how to pronounce a given word (use the free language Anki add-on).
  • Speed and execution over details: don’t obsess over perfect cards.

In general, your cards should be set up so that you can learn 500-700/hour, aka a couple seconds per card during your review. Keep them simple!

Pro tip: when I can’t think of a sentence using my target vocab word, I plug it into Reverso’s context engine and modify one of the available sentences.


For conjugation cards, simply do something like this (e.g. for verb pensare, to think in Italian):

Set up your conjugation cards like this

There’s of course more, but those basic items will get you most of the way there.

And with that, it’s time to…

Launch your language learning

Here’s to learning AND remembering foreign languages. Arrivederci to blank moments during conversation, adios to forgetting everything a month after a trip, HOLA to language competency!

Enjoy the journey.

Time to take action! Here’s how to get started:

  1. Download the Anki app ($25 one-time for iPhone, free for Android). I prefer to use it on my computer unless I’m not at home.
  2. Find shared Anki decks
  3. Watch an Anki tutorial for setting things up (YouTube).
  4. Download the best Anki add-ons. If nothing else, definitely get the free language add-on. It has audio translations you can add to cards to get the pronunciation right.
  5. Develop a way to generate new vocab (language lessons on iTalki, Duolingo, reading, grammar books, podcasts, video).
  6. Start studying and spend 10-30 minutes spread throughout the day reviewing your cards.

Reference Resources

  1. These excellent notes from the book Fluent Forever from my friend Jono, who speaks somewhere around five languages, including Chinese (!).
  2. Here’s an interactive comic explaining why spaced repetition works (same link as main post).
  3. To get really serious about language learning, check out the Vocabulary Labs course on Universe of Memory.
You better believe I’m going to remember more produce vocab next time I’m in Mexico!

A First Date in Prague

Meeting in Prague

Today is special. Ten years ago to the day, Chelsea and I met for the first time.

In Prague.

At the time, I was studying abroad in Gothenburg, Sweden. (Ok, mostly having fun.) Chelsea had just moved to Portland. Through an introduction from her brother, my college roommate, she and I wound up chatting online, then Skyping.

An offhand comment from me about traveling in Europe resulted in her booking a plane ticket to fly across the Atlantic for a first date. It was my bushy fro that wooed her.

I know, I know - I'm a serious charmer.

I know, I know – I’m a serious charmer.

We united in a square in Prague and kicked off a month journey through red-roofed Czech villages and Croatian islands with spectacular views and free house wine. Just in case we didn’t hit it off, Chelsea brought shirts emblazoned with FUN, the theme of the trip. She also brought fake buck teeth and temporary tattoos with sayings like Girl Love to embarrass me.

Turns out that we liked each other.

Two months later, she was back in Portland. Meanwhile, I took the Trans-Siberian Railroad across Russia with my brother. (A story for another day.) Then Chelsea soldiered through a long trip to meet me in Beijing to kick off our second date – 2.5 months exploring the far reaches of SE Asia from China to Thailand.

Top of a holy mountain somewhere in SW China.

Top of a mountain somewhere in SW China.

Let’s just say traveling together 24 hours per day is a quick way to get to know someone. We decided life together would be fun, so I got on a flight to Portland and moved in with her.

Since then, the saying about time flapping its wings has proven true. We’ve worked hard on businesses, dug into a community of friends in Portland, and built a life together. There were small trips, all woven into a busy work, social, and city life. The end of 2013 was major life shift when we headed out on a “four month” van trip that continues to evolve and has transformed how we aspire to live.

Alright, you caught me - this one is from a day exploring Vietnam by scooter. Everyone needs a pink umbrella while scootering...

Wait, that’s not our van! Exploring Vietnam by scooter in 2006. Pink umbrellas for rain protection are mandatory.

We get along well, even in a small space like a van or pedaling thousands of miles together, but we’re not perfect. There are fights, misunderstandings, and moments when she tells me to go for a run or force-feeds me to send my Hangry Alter-Ego (NARG) into retreat. (Check out my Happy Wife Happy Life post for tips on keeping it together on the road.)

Still, I figure we must be doing something right. When I think about it, there’s one thing that’s the bedrock of our successful partnership:

We never stop learning, or more importantly, being open to what the other person is learning.

It’s as simple as that. There are books about the five love languages, techniques on non-violent communication, and plenty of expensive therapists available. For us, continuing to learn, exploring the world, and growing keeps life interesting and aligns us on a path together.

Hanging with our favorite lambs at Farm Sanctuary.

Hanging with our favorite lambs at Farm Sanctuary.

To celebrate our ten year anniversary of meeting with a fitting gift, I dug deep into our photo collection. First, I picked over 1,000 photos of the two of us, starting April 5, 2006. Shots of us laughing, hiking, hanging with friends, doing handstands, wearing hats sideways, riding bikes, and all the fun of 3,650 days as a couple.

Then I made a photo mosaic with Mosaically using those photos to create a big print to surprise Chelsea. The shot I chose is a goofy one from our wedding day wearing those original FUN shirts. When you look at it from afar, it’s a portrait of the two of us. Upon closer inspection, it’s a 1,000 tiny moments we’ve spent together.

One of my favorite shots, now built from 10 years of fun moments.

One of my favorite shots, now built from 10 years of fun moments. (Here’s the original.)

After all, what is a relationship but a compilation of the moments shared with someone you care about? When I look at this print, I think of not just the times Chelsea made me smile, laugh, or feel special. I also dream of the expanding landscape of our lives, how many more adventures we will have, and how much we’ll learn and explore together. We’re just getting started.

Chelsea, thanks for being my life partner. Here’s to filling the next mosaic with many more photos of us sporting temporary tattoos or doing handstands. I love you.

I finally found a place to use a dorky wedding photo! It's amazing what those photographers can talk you into...

Yesssss – I finally found a place to use a dorky wedding photo! It’s amazing what those photographers can talk you into.